I can't help but notice a pattern in the last few relationships that I've had. The biggest theme seems to be alcohol. NYC... 20s... typical right? Sure there are different activities but they all include alcohol; and seeing as I have absolutely no tolerance that means I'm always drunk. Don't get me wrong, I in no way consider myself an alcoholic. Possibly because I did the whole college thing where I drank five nights a week. In fact, during my senior year one of my favorite activities included drinking a gallon of sangria and throwing things off my roof. Then in my drunken state I would contemplate the physics involved in all of it. I was terrible with physics but when you're drunk everything seems to make sense. I'm a freak! Tangent! Anyway....
College students really get a free pass when it comes to drinking, but what about after college? Sure everyone wants to let off some steam on the weekends and get tanked with their friends, but is this a national habit? Now that we are in our 20s and most of our time is spent either in the workplace or at a bar, it seems that almost everyone we date comes from one of the two. Is this in our best interest? I guess it depends.
Let's look at our two options: we meet guys in bars when were drunk OR we start a secret, forbidden work affair. The idea here is that both of these situations are hot! Drunk hookups are always fun/funny; you're drunk, happy, and every thing's cool. However, if you make plans to meet again it could possibly be in a sober environment. Is he still good looking without your beer goggles? Was he this boring before you're buzz kill? Sure he's gorgeous, but can he even form a sentence? Now clearly we could be wildly optimistic and say he's perfect and thank god you got wasted and hooked up with him, but is this the kind of story you see yourself telling your kids? If it's all about fun then go for it! Probably not the greatest idea if you want something that's going to stick.
On the other hand, everyone knows that we all want what we can't have. If companies were smarter the policy on office hookups would be a free for all. This relationship is totally hot but what about when the secrets out? When those office bees spread the word that you have been taking more than you're bosses calls, will you still want him? There's just something juicy about secrets. It doesn't matter if you're a ten year old at a sleepover or a sixty year old lounging at the country club... people feed off of secrets! Again, this is not a future bedtime story! Last time I checked, Cinderella and the Prince weren't sneaking in quickies on the other side of the castle while the King and Queen were in a deep slumber.
Look, fun should definitely be the priority here but we shouldn't lose track of the type of relationship were seeking. If you're thinking flirty, casual, fun then by all means drink your ass off and wink at the hottest guy in the bar! Wanna get frisky? Plan a secret rendezvous in the on-call room, janitors closet, or conference room! Honestly, you can be a prude in your next life! However, if your heart is out there and you are looking for the real thing then maybe you need to change it up a bit! I'm thinking museums, fashion/art/charity events, restaurant openings! Alcohol is optional but as long as food is involved there's a good chance you'll remember his name in the morning!